Going through a separation or divorce?
Separation after few years of marriage is a very ordinary thing in today's world. But have you ever thought why is it?
If you are reading this maybe you are in a similar situation. Anyway first let’s understand why you or someone feel that way, then we can find the way forward.
The most common complaint is that partner has changed. Your partner is not the same person he/she used to be. But in most cases, the reality is something else.
A few years back you have noticed mainly good things about your partner, but not the bad things. Now that situation has changed. Now you mainly noticed your partner’s bad things but not good things. And you are adding points to be separated because you can’t stand your partner anymore.
Now let’s see why couples face this kind of situation. There’s a thing that we don’t know about this world. That is, we always expect happiness from others. In this case, we expect happiness from our partner. But the truth is the happiness is something within ourselves but not in the outside world or in someone else. And when you live long enough to sense that your partner doesn't make you happy, you will start noticing mainly his mistakes. But why your partner doesn’t make you happy? Because your partner or any other person can’t do it, as it’s something within you. But we think source of happiness is our loved ones.
When your partner gives you a gift, you think you are happy because of your partner. But when you open the gift and find out it’s something that you really hate, then suddenly you become angry and you think your partner is the cause for that disappointment. Now think about this scenario which you can think deeper and deeper for a long time.
Is it the partner or you causing the happiness, unhappiness or dissapointments?
The take away is, don’t create a scene if you are going through a separation. Understand this reality of life and move on with or without your partner. Don’t expect happiness from others or the outer world, as they can’t provide it, because it’s always within our selves.
Find your true hidden happiness within you..!
